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Liked it OK, but "Toltec Wisdom", I don't think so

I knew something was amiss when I saw how tiny the book was. I liked it well enough, though. The author put a novel spin on some common sense ideas. I would encourage my teenagers to read it because its short and they are not searching for self-help or spiritual truths at this point. BUT, what it has to do with some ancient Toltec wisdom tradition - absolutely nothing! Other than some loosely presented ideas about life being a dream, it is not mystic in any way and even references the Bible (that ain't Toltec tradition). It'll speak to some people and others might wish they'd gotten a little more for their money.

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The Four Agreements

Ruiz has complied a book of toltec wisdom that anyone can read. To take this wisdom and to weave it into the threads of life is the task that takes a conscious effort to create and deliver. Reading and rereading this book can support you on your journey of self fulfillment and awareness.

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Toltec Wisdom Book

The four agreements comprises extremly valuable principles for personal change and psycho-spiritual growth in a few basic priciples and words of simple and clear, yet profound wisdom. If implemented into daily life, the "agreements" and resulting changes in thoughts, perception and behavior can make u huge difference. A little book that can have the effect of thousands of written pages...

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great recipe for a new begining

in my opinion this book is very helpful and inspiring ,so few books keep u so interested and amazed to discover and learn more about you and your surroundings i strongly recommend this book to anyone who is in the verge of a new chapter in their life.

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You have a fulfilling job, a great group of friends, the perfect apartment, and no shortage of dates. So what if you haven't found The One just yet. Surely he'll come along, right?

But what if he doesn't? Or even worse, what if he already has, but you just didn't realize it?

Suddenly finding herself forty and single, Lori Gottlieb said the unthinkable in her March 2008 article in The Atlantic: Maybe she and single women everywhere, needed to stop chasing the elusive Prince Charming and instead go for Mr. Good Enough.

Looking at her friends' happy marriages to good enough guys who happen to be excellent husbands and fathers, Gottlieb declared it time to reevaluate what we really need in a partner. Her ideas created a firestorm of controversy from outlets like the Today show to The Washington Post, which wrote, "Given the perennial shortage of perfect men, Gottlieb's probably got a point," to Newsweek and NPR, which declared, "Lori Gottlieb didn't want to take her mother's advice to be less picky, but now that she's turned forty, she wonders if her mother is right." Women all over the world were talking. But while many people agreed that they should have more realistic expectations, what did that actually mean out in the real world, where Gottlieb and women like her were inexorably drawn to their "type"?

That's where Marry Him comes in.

By looking at everything from culture to biology, in Marry Him Gottlieb frankly explores the dilemma that so many women today seem to face--how to reconcile the strong desire for a husband and family with a list of must-haves so long and complicated that many great guys get rejected out of the gate. Here Gottlieb shares her own journey in the quest for romantic fulfillment, and in the process gets wise guidance and surprising insights from marital researchers, matchmakers, dating coaches, behavioral economists, neuropsychologists, sociologists, couples therapists, divorce lawyers, and clergy--as well as single and married men and women, ranging in age from their twenties to their sixties.

Marry Him is an eye-opening, often funny, sometimes painful, and always truthful in-depth examination of the modern dating landscape, and ultimately, a provocative wake- up call about getting real about Mr. Right.

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A few useful messages nestled amongst fluff

The title and subject matter of this book immediately piqued my curiosity, mostly due to what I viewed as a rather controversial title. It is my belief that the title alone has caused most of the real uproar, not so much the core subject matter. Given what modern women have been taught, especially those in my generation, it is not surprising that some would balk at the suggestion that a woman "settle" for a "good enough" man. We are taught to strive for perfection, have amazing social lives and thriving careers, and on top of that, find a man who is "worthy" of us. My favorite part of this entire book is when the author is confronted with a fact that literally changed the way I viewed this entire issue: Most women are determined to be find a 10, but have they stopped to wonder whether THEY are even a 10? God forbid we stop and assess our OWN flaws and how WE could work towards helping ourselves become strong partners. In my early 20's, I tossed men aside for being too short, not having enough hair, not sharing my every interest, and so on. Now, as I look toward 30 next year with a wonderful partner, I have begun to realize what qualities really matter for long term companionship and commitment. Ms. Gottlieb does a great job discerning between the superficial traits we tend to focus on that likely don't matter and those that are important in a long-term partner, such as loyalty, trust, good parent, caring, etc. I think what we may be seeing here are the consequences of nurturing such an entitled society, but that is a whole other issue...

Now the other side of things; much of this book is anecdotal evidence gathered by the author, mostly about her life and her friends' experiences. While she may have written this book, it's blatantly clear that her greatest struggle is taking her own advice. The arguments she has with her dating coach become nearly exhausting to read and on more than one occasion, I wished I could reach through the pages and shake some sense into her! Also, while I realize that settling means different things to different people, I believe we have all seen what can happen when people marry simply to have children or because it's what they think they "should" do. There is a reason for the U.S. divorce rate and many people who find themselves in stagnant relationships seek to have their needs met elsewhere. The part in the book where one man actually says something along the lines of "I get passion at work, so it's okay that I don't really get that at home with my wife" flat out disturbed me. Perhaps that works for them, but I have to wonder how long that would work for most people before what's missing is sought out elsewhere by either partner.

I agree with the reviewer who stated that there is already enough pressure on women to get married, so instilling fear seems a bit harmful, though I believe it is somewhat realistic. It's true that not all women want children and not all women want to get married, which is perfectly understandable, and their choice should be respected. However, if you happen to be one who does want marriage and family, perhaps tossing someone aside because he doesn't clear 5'10" and doesn't share your every hobby isn't really in your best interest. Lastly, I left the final 20 pages of this book unread. You can get the message after about halfway through and the author's personal stories and continued struggle with taking her own message to heart became tiresome.


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Marry Him - Lori Gottlieb is on to sumthin'

Lori Gottlieb has expressed what I've felt about American women all my life but had no proof.

"You've come a long way baby," was a commercial slogan 30 years ago - and with all this opportunity for American women - Lori Gottlieb found all that freedom may have worked against her long term interests.

Freedom is the key - men and women given more choices can have its hazards to dissatisfaction - Lori has put her finger on letting one's mind rule one's emotions.

Highly recommended for women and men.

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from toxic maximizer to satisficer

For all the girls out there who feel like they can't find the right guy...I was one of you. And now I'm converted.

Ever since my early 20's I have been anything but single. I have always had a man but always found something wrong with him and bailed for the next guy. Over and over again. Was I crazy? For a while I thought so. But after reading this book I have a better perspective. I think that my expectations have been unrealistic.

Does that mean I should drop my standards? Mmmm no, not exactly. But I know I have been concentrating on the wrong standards. I thought I knew exactly what I wanted. But really I was just focusing on the wrong things. Each time I got into a relationship I would think, "this is the one!" only to find out that what appeals to me on the surface isn't really what I want for the long term.

I don't think the book is perfect. It surely is repetitive and pretty much all the dating stories were the Internet or fee-based service kind. What happened to meeting people in real life? I guess everyone's mileage will vary depending on her lifestyle.

Despite my minor complaints about repetition and the new-age ways to date (how can you learn ANYTHING about someone from a little thumbnail and small profile?), I got a lot out of this book. I have immediately applied my change of perspective toward my plans for the future. I do have to say it is hard letting go of those surface attributes because they seem so very important when you don't know a person very well. It sure makes it easier to want to get to know them better. But ultimately I know that after a while I don't notice the surface any more and the change in perspective has made me stop being a "toxic maximizer."

Best thing about the Kindle edition? No one ever saw me reading this book. I don't know about you but I'm not the kind of girl who wants to be caught carrying a book like this around where my friends and family can see me.


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Don't wait until you are 41 to read this!

I believe that this book is a very important read for any woman who is still single but can't quite figure out why. If you are anything like me, you will see yourself many times throughout. This excellent work serves to change the conotation of the word "settling." Coming of age in the "Sex and the City" era, settling is looked at as the worst possible outcome for a woman. It's better to be alone than to settle, I believed. After reading this book, however, I am thinking twice about that belief and about the definition of the word settling. Maybe it's not so negative afterall. I think I had been taught to believe that compromising and settling are the same thing. I am now thinking that they are not.
Lori Gottlieb's story is easy to relate to and told in an entertaining way. I couldn't put this book down. It does not read like a self help book. It served as a reference for me to check myself against. I will now think twice before I refuse a second date with the "too tall", "too short", "too old", or "too broke" but otherwise fairly decent guy and spend more time sitting around alone waiting for my "soul mate" to show up at the newest hot spot bar or on my computer screen. Whether you agree with the points presented in the book or not, it will, at the very least, make you think.

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Easy Read with Good Ideas

I enjoyed this book.

All she's saying is don't jump to conclusions, keep an open mind, understand the difference between needs (shared goals and values) vs wants (a certain height). A lot of people can figure things out through personal experiences what works and what doesn't, but I think her goal is to say "If marriage is a goal, then don't give things up".

I think you also know when you are ready to be married. So if you are ready to be married, apply some of her thoughts to your dating - if you haven't figured them out on your own - and you'll have success.

She doesn't say "Marry a nice guy you have horrible sex with", as one critical poster says. It's just, acknowledge that you can find someone attractive who isn't your "type". And it also says "Bad boy

I think I am lucky that I understood a lot of her ideas without needing a book to tell me that, but reading the opinions of professional matchmakers, happily married people, psychologists gave additional perspective.

It's super easy to read - I read it in 2 days. It's just a lot of good ideas, and includes a lot of professional advice as well.

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Don't Miss It!

Wow--what a read!!! The idea of a book as an experience is not new, but this experience is! Just when I thought I was comfortable with "knowing" a little about myself the shutters were thrown open by "What Does That Mean?" and the light nearly blinded me. Sometimes the intensity was so great that I felt like throwing the book--but I didn't, I stayed with it and I do not regret that decision one tiny little bit. This book will provoke you, it will cause you to cry, it will bring laughter and joy to you, and much more--but what it won't do is allow you to remain status quo.

Eldon asks over and over again throughout the book, "What does that mean?" When you have read it all, perhaps even twice like I did, you will find that the answer is all about you. He paraphrases time and again the idea that we should know ourselves and he writes in such a way that it is difficult, if at all possible, to avoid looking squarely at who we are and how we became that.

In the end, the read is inspiring, absolutely uplifting and full of hope. There are miracles and moments that just cause your skin to bubble with goose bumps. This is a great read--don't miss it!


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IS REALITY RELATIVE?

WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? - A must read for any thinking person, questions if reality is only relative. According to Dr. Eldon Taylor's most thought provoking work to date, our perception of reality is ever in flux and is always relative to our conditioning, experiences, belief systems, our willingness to open our hearts and minds to new paradigms, and whether or not we live in fear or love. This autobiographical tale reveals how one of the most brilliant minds in America came to question reality and the value and purpose of our multilevel perceptions. Each new reality initiates a journey into a new trajectory of soul expansion, and more importantly brings one to the comprehension that we create our own realities.

ANGELINA HEART, author - The Teaching of Little Crow



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Very Enlightening! I highly recommend this book!

What Does That Mean is full of amazing stories and insights regarding the meaning of life. Eldon's intriguing questions will have you looking inside yourself for the answers. Once you start reading, you won't be able to put it down!

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Why Mr. Taylor?

Why would the author cheapen such a powerful thought provoking book by strategically inserting his political bias throughout the book. Was that his primary intent? What does it all mean when the author tells us how much our thoughts are, and can be manipulated...and we continue to read? Near the beginning of the book, I felt so good about the stories he shared with us.I in-turn shared many of them with my family and friends. We travel a lot,sometimes in two vehicles. When I told my family about the tire and wheel incident, my wife and I both looked at each other. We had a similar experience and we both asked at that time, and still do... how could that happen and what does it all mean? That internal place that I went while reading the book was a place that I felt I wanted to go. However, as I continued to read, I did not like the nagging feeling that Taylor's political views were as important to this work as his powerfully provocative questions. I don't think that his political views had anything to do with his train wreck or his destroyed tire and wheel. Or does it?

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Excellent read - makes you really think about who you are!

I LOVED this book. It is so very different to Taylor's previous books but at the same time, it is the natural progression. In Choices and Illusions and Mind Programming, Eldon shows us how other's can (and do) manipulate our thoughts and choices. In What Does That Mean he provides numerous examples of common beliefs we all have that make absolutely no sense. It is hard to deny the value of his previous books once you have read What Does That Mean? Who am I if my beliefs are not my own and make no sense at all? This is an invaluable addition to my library.

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good book

I ordered this book & got it very quickly. Fast service & I love the book.

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One of my favorite books ever

I have had ths book for several years and yet continue to pick it up and read it again and again. The references on illness and the thinking that causes the illness I have found to be pretty dead on. Change your thinking change your life. Louise's story is powerful and empowering.

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.5 Stars

I wish you could give zero stars but I would actually give it half a star because if the book did anything it made me understand the person who purchased this for me (I will use the name Anna) and their point of view. In Anna's own words, by following Hay's belief system which is the basic mind over matter concept on steroids with a sprinkle of plutonium grade narcissism thrown in, she has serious problems feeling empathy. Empathy for others being something I would not trade for a completely healthy body.

I was given the book when I called Anna to tell her that my medical situation had changed and I was back to a pre-cancerous stage. This is after many years of remission gained through a variety of Western and Eastern Medicine. I had just found out and was making arrangements for the necessary procedures and panicked and looked for support... in the wrong place. I figured I was entitled to a few days of "oh no" before I put on my boot-straps and moved forward. Instead, Anna, demanded to know why I would even use the term pre-cancer because words are power and I was giving it more power and allowing it to do more harm. I explained I was just using medical terminology as to not confuse anyone. In addition, I was told that I had complete control over my life and had brought this energy to myself and I had complete control of the outcome by giving up resentments and forgiveness. All ideas from the book.

Quoting from the book page 158

Probable cause of cancer:

Deep hurt, long-standing resentment. Deep secret or grief eating away at the self. Carrying hatredism "What's the use?"

My new thought pattern for correction:

I lovingly forgive and release all of the past. I choose to fill my world with joy. I love and approve of myself.

Back to reality, the brain is an important ally when dealing with any health problems and I have gone down many roads since I was born with congenital health issues. I went through a constant stress and reading every snippet I could find and yes I did feel worse. Does this mean with a more positive outlook I was now cured? No.

The mind is a part of the team and not the team itself. I still needed medical treatment but learning tangible things (not from this book) such as Biofeedback, Guided Imagery, Breathing Techniques, etc helped me immensely. In addition to accepting certain black and white facts regarding my health instead of trying to constantly make it something it plainly isn't and not because I have the wrong attitude about it but because I was born that way or as Hay's puts it I chose it before I was born or am paying for something from a past life.

I researched the author a little and found this from an interview in the NYT.

"When I asked her if, since people's thoughts are responsible for their conditions, victims of genocide might be to blame for their own deaths, she said: "I probably wouldn't say it to them. I don't go around making people feel bad. That's not what I'm after." I pressed harder: Did she believe they are to blame? "Yes, I think there's a lot of karmic stuff that goes on, past lives." So, I asked, with a situation like the Holocaust, the victims might have been an unfortunate group of souls who deserved what they got because of their behavior in past lives? "Yes, it can work that way," Hay said. "But that's just my opinion."

(The Queen of New Age by Mark Oppenheimer)

If this works for people I think that is great. For myself, I really can't even take this seriously. The author took many concepts from a variety of places and merged and distored them. Strangely, for a self-help book it had an entirely strange and unhelpful (for me) "atmosphere."


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Changed My Life

So many great things have already been written about this book...and rightly so....so i won't go into detail. I will just say this....i was going through a very bad spell in my life and this book single-handedly helped pull me out of it and started me on a beautiful journey of self-discovery. Thanks to this book i am no longer the negative unhappy person i am as i have learnt a lot to let go of things that happened in the past and to not let it affect every decision, every relationship or every step i make or take in the present moment.

An absolute gem of a book!

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You Can Heal Your Life

A great book for all of those who are dealing with painful experiences from the past and want to be set free to enjoy their lives to the fullest! Great book as a gift!You Can Heal Your Life, The Movie, Expanded Version: 90-minute DVD, plus 4 hours of additional interviews and an Interactive Affirmations Tool!You Can Heal Your Life (DVD Study Guide)

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One of the most helpful practical books for life

This is a must read for anyone. It is very helpful and practical for one of life's biggest challenges for all people. I have used it in counseling to help a number of other people and have found the insights and practical steps liberating for me personally.

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Boundaries

Cloud & Townsend are excellent speakers with excellent knowledge and have a great presentation....but not in this! The information they have is so valuable, so life changing and so very LOST in this video. You will spend much of your time watching graphics including an irritating pencil streaking across the screen for endless periods of time. This nonsense interrupts the speakers so often you almost want to give up watching it. You cannot even skip to the next session to avoid it.
Cloud & Townsend gave a presentation in a video years ago that I viewed and it was so remarkably well done. I even tried to buy it...but it does not exist. I tried to get the audio version of this video and sadly it is not presented by these speakers but someone else who you cannot stand to listen to. My advice: they completely re-do this project (both video & audio) and fire the graphics people, the reader, and do their presentation without interruption. Only then can their message be heard and understood.

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Potentially useful, sometimes unrealistic.

Although this book attempts to address an extremely important aspect of human relationships (i.e. establishing healthy boundaries) there are times when I feel the book was not very realistic. In an ideal world perhaps information imparted would work quite well. Unfortunately we do not live in an ideal world.

For instance in Chapter 9 the authors attempt to discuss "Boundaries and Your Spouse." The authors state "in marriage...When the two become one on their wedding day, spouses do not lose their individual identities. Each participates in the relationship, and each has his or her own life." Wouldn't that be nice if that were true? What IS realistic far too often is that the WOMAN does in fact lose HER identity to the man as evidenced from the beginning with her very last name change. The man does NOT lose his. The authors continue "The problem arises when one trespasses on the other's personhood, behaviors, choices, and values of the other...To try to control these things is to violate someone's boundaries." This I fully agree with but having worked in the field of domestic violence for many years is NOT what I often saw. The authors rightfully point out that in 1 Corinthians 7:4-6 the Bible says that the husband and wife have "authority over each other's bodies." Husband and wife are advised to submit onto each other. However, what many priests and ministers overly stress is the necessity of the WIFE'S submission to the husband. Apparently it is left to the husband to decide what form this submission should take. If, heaven forbid, the wife is not submissive enough, there are many husbands who feel justified to use physical abuse to make this happen. This violation of the wife's boundaries does not seem to be addressed in any of the churches currently in existance.

In Chapter 11 "Boundaries and Work" it is NOT realistic nor particularly helpful to confront an overly critical supervisor telling them how you feel about their attitude and how it affects you. Particularly those of us who have been in the military or worked for the Department of Defense know that this would not likely have a good outcome. This would be true particularly if you followed the authors advice: "If she will not agree to change, you may want to tell her that you do not wish to talk with her until she gets her attitude under control." I have to say though that the authors DO offer the alternative of following a company's grievance policy. This sometimes might work. The authors make the point that "The important thing is that you can't control her, but you can choose to limit your exposure to her either physically or emotionally distancing yourself from her. This is control."

Still the ability to establish REALISTIC boundaries can be very helpful and one worth exploring. This book can help you with that.

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Great, appropriate

Great book. Helped me know when to say no, not to be mean, but to preserve myself for the MOST important things.

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Changed my life and everyone around me

Boundaries works in every area of your life. Many people focus on changing others through trying to control others which, never works and only makes everyone miserable. Boundaries teaches you to control only your own life, what you're will to accept or not accept and in turn it makes everyone around you responsible for their own life. Your kids will have a higher self esteem, they will become more responsible, they will be happier, and your relationships will be better than ever with everyone you choose to keep in your life, whether it be an out of control child, a judgemental parent or spouse, a controlling person in your life. The list goes on.

P.S. Overly controlling men do not want their spouse or girlfriend to get a hold of this book. It would do them a lot of good to read the book but highly unlikely. If you want to weed out a control freak just have this book lying around and wait for the negative comments to start coming out.

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