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Changed my life and everyone around me

Boundaries works in every area of your life. Many people focus on changing others through trying to control others which, never works and only makes everyone miserable. Boundaries teaches you to control only your own life, what you're will to accept or not accept and in turn it makes everyone around you responsible for their own life. Your kids will have a higher self esteem, they will become more responsible, they will be happier, and your relationships will be better than ever with everyone you choose to keep in your life, whether it be an out of control child, a judgemental parent or spouse, a controlling person in your life. The list goes on.

P.S. Overly controlling men do not want their spouse or girlfriend to get a hold of this book. It would do them a lot of good to read the book but highly unlikely. If you want to weed out a control freak just have this book lying around and wait for the negative comments to start coming out.

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Potentially useful, sometimes unrealistic.

Although this book attempts to address an extremely important aspect of human relationships (i.e. establishing healthy boundaries) there are times when I feel the book was not very realistic. In an ideal world perhaps information imparted would work quite well. Unfortunately we do not live in an ideal world.

For instance in Chapter 9 the authors attempt to discuss "Boundaries and Your Spouse." The authors state "in marriage...When the two become one on their wedding day, spouses do not lose their individual identities. Each participates in the relationship, and each has his or her own life." Wouldn't that be nice if that were true? What IS realistic far too often is that the WOMAN does in fact lose HER identity to the man as evidenced from the beginning with her very last name change. The man does NOT lose his. The authors continue "The problem arises when one trespasses on the other's personhood, behaviors, choices, and values of the other...To try to control these things is to violate someone's boundaries." This I fully agree with but having worked in the field of domestic violence for many years is NOT what I often saw. The authors rightfully point out that in 1 Corinthians 7:4-6 the Bible says that the husband and wife have "authority over each other's bodies." Husband and wife are advised to submit onto each other. However, what many priests and ministers overly stress is the necessity of the WIFE'S submission to the husband. Apparently it is left to the husband to decide what form this submission should take. If, heaven forbid, the wife is not submissive enough, there are many husbands who feel justified to use physical abuse to make this happen. This violation of the wife's boundaries does not seem to be addressed in any of the churches currently in existance.

In Chapter 11 "Boundaries and Work" it is NOT realistic nor particularly helpful to confront an overly critical supervisor telling them how you feel about their attitude and how it affects you. Particularly those of us who have been in the military or worked for the Department of Defense know that this would not likely have a good outcome. This would be true particularly if you followed the authors advice: "If she will not agree to change, you may want to tell her that you do not wish to talk with her until she gets her attitude under control." I have to say though that the authors DO offer the alternative of following a company's grievance policy. This sometimes might work. The authors make the point that "The important thing is that you can't control her, but you can choose to limit your exposure to her either physically or emotionally distancing yourself from her. This is control."

Still the ability to establish REALISTIC boundaries can be very helpful and one worth exploring. This book can help you with that.

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One of the most helpful practical books for life

This is a must read for anyone. It is very helpful and practical for one of life's biggest challenges for all people. I have used it in counseling to help a number of other people and have found the insights and practical steps liberating for me personally.

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Great, appropriate

Great book. Helped me know when to say no, not to be mean, but to preserve myself for the MOST important things.

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Boundaries

Cloud & Townsend are excellent speakers with excellent knowledge and have a great presentation....but not in this! The information they have is so valuable, so life changing and so very LOST in this video. You will spend much of your time watching graphics including an irritating pencil streaking across the screen for endless periods of time. This nonsense interrupts the speakers so often you almost want to give up watching it. You cannot even skip to the next session to avoid it.
Cloud & Townsend gave a presentation in a video years ago that I viewed and it was so remarkably well done. I even tried to buy it...but it does not exist. I tried to get the audio version of this video and sadly it is not presented by these speakers but someone else who you cannot stand to listen to. My advice: they completely re-do this project (both video & audio) and fire the graphics people, the reader, and do their presentation without interruption. Only then can their message be heard and understood.

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Get your hopes up. Raise your expectations. Your best days are in front of you.

In challenging times, it may be hard to see better days ahead. You may feel as though your struggles will never end, that things won't ever turn around for you.

This is exactly the moment to put your faith into action and expect God's blessings.

It's your time to declare your faith, to look for God's favor, and to give control of your life to Him so that you can find fulfillment in His plans for you!

It's Your Time to believe.

It's not easy to always be optimistic. Life can be difficult, and in hard economic times it's not just your finances that suffer. Your relationships can be strained. Your health can be stressed. Bad habits can return and negative thoughts can take over.

When one part of your life after another takes a bad turn, you can feel like there is no end in sight, no way out. The truth is, maybe you don't have an answer. But God does! Maybe you don't have the strength. But God does!

It's Your Time for favor.

In It's Your Time, bestselling author Joel Osteen, pastor of the nation's largest church, offers the inspirational truth that no matter where you stand in life, you are never alone. He reminds you also that the bigger your burden, the greater your blessings to come.

You may have neglected God, but He has not abandoned you. He has already released good things into your future. As long as you're breathing, you can still reclaim His favor by renewing your faith and accepting His plans for you.

It's Your Time for restoration.

In these pages, Joel offers assurances that God does not want you to merely survive challenging times, He wants you to thrive. When you give your life over to Him, God will send opportunities your way so that you can soar to new heights of fulfillment.

History has shown that the most difficult times can serve as catalysts for creativity, innovation, and accomplishment. If you hold on to your faith, ask for God's favor, and don't give in to depression or discouragement, you will emerge not bitter but better, not a victim but a victor.

It's Your Time to trust.

God already is working in your life to arrange the right people, the right skills, and the right opportunities to give you the tools you need to fulfill and exceed your dreams.

Drawing from Joel's experiences and those of people around the world, It's Your Time offers messages of faith, hope, and strength to help you rise above any circumstance so that you can fulfill God's best plan for your life.

It's Your Time to stretch.

Joel has filled this book with bold new prayers, inspiring stories, and practical tools for moving forward in faith. You will find inspiration from others who have overcome adversity and achieved their dreams. You will find proven methods for not just picking up the pieces but for building a new life better than you'd imagined.

The hopeful messages and warm encouragements in this book will push you to expand your horizons beyond what you thought you were capable of doing so that you might go even farther than you'd ever dreamed of going.

It's Your Time!

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Power of positive thinking

Easy reading and enjoyable book. Similar to other positive thinking works from Robert Schuler, Norman Vincent Peale, etc.regarding philosophy of living a full and rewarding life.

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Wow!

How nice it is in these economic times to realize that our resources are from God! This book inspired me to dream BIG, super duper BIG! Thanks Joel for giving me hope and inspiration not to give up. Michelle Cimino, Author & Digital Etiquette Expert. [...]

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Life Long Learning

It's Your Time is the best inspirational book yet! It is truly a book that you would want to keep on you night stand forever and read every so often through out life...It has help, scripture, and inspiration for every aspect of your life! I LOVE IT!

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Joel keeps getting better..

...all the time. I have read all of his books. They keep getting better. Some people say that he is just a "feel good" preacher looking to get rich. I think he is a wonderfully insightful God filled man with a great way of letting us know what God's best is for all of us. We just have to believe and let Him.
I was a critic of Joel Osteen at first. However, after reading his books and watching him on his weekly shows I have opened up to what he is saying and I can tell you from personal experience that his message works if you work it. Thank you Joel and keep it up.

Bill Kyne

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Inspiring

"You can't please everybody." Not sure about the negative reviews, but I certainly enjoyed the audio book version. During long commutes I would listen to him uplift, and inspire. If you enjoy Joel Osteen you should enjoy this book. Just a thought...if you are no longer moved by his messages, and feel he's repeating himself, give your copy away for free.

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Learn how to help yourself rather than just suffer

The authors explain how much of our suffering/stress comes from merely reacting to unpleasant situations, often in habitual ways of which we are no longer consciously aware. Beginning with the practice of Mindfulness Meditation, the authors share practices that help us to to be aware of our reactions, without judgement of them. This gives us back the choice of how we want to deal with the perceived problem, which is often diminished in severity just by being realistically and objectively regarded. The book goes on to present various excercises, such as the full body scan, to examine the physical effects/affects of our pain and ways to see it differently. This is not any kind of self-hypnosis or mind trick, and does not pretend to be a cure. Rather it is a positive and loving way to examine and live with the myriad stresses, pains and disappointments that sometimes seem to overtake our lives.

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Great find

Very detailed regarding mindfulness in structured activities as well as during the routine of daily life. I have returned to a daily meditation practice and find myself being more in the here and now during the morning hussle as well as in traffic. This book has helped me do that .

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A Great Book

This is a great resource for people who suffer from any type of chronic (long-term) health problems. It is based on the author's experience with thousands of people who have participated in a course called the Stress Reduction and Relaxation Program at the Univ. of Massachusetts Medical Center. Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness is intended to be that program rolled up into a book.

The book's tool is mindfulness meditation- a form of meditation originally developed in the Buddhist traditions- defined as a moment-to-moment awareness. Through mindful meditation, one can gain new kinds of control and wisdom in their lives. The book is very "hands on", so don't expect to just read it and be done with it. For example, you'll be doing things such breathing exercises or yoga postures (I can also recommend Exercise Beats Depression as another good resource for those struggling with depression).

Since the mind plays a factor in stress-related disorders, and very undertreated in Western medicine, I feel like this book will fill a much needed niche for many people. With over five-hundred pages, there's plenty of wisdom here to suck up.

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An essential read

This classic explores mindfulness in detail, and elaborates on the practical application of mindfulness to improve our lives. It brings mindfulness out of the monasteries and into real life, which is exactly where it needs to be and what the Buddha wanted.Mindfulness meditation is a practical tool that can benefit us with the real challenges of life. You might also like to read the in-depth exploration of the theory and practice of mindfulness by Dr Peter Strong in 'The Path of Mindfulness Meditation.'
The Path of Mindfulness Meditation: Finding Balance in the Midst of Chaos: The Application of Mindfulness and Vipassana Meditation for Personal Transformation

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Stick to it-It works

Easy to read...get the CD's directly from Zinn, 4 of them, they walk you through the program. Is working on me so far, 2 weeks in...6 to go!

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From Stephen R. Covey's eldest son comes a revolutionary new path towards productivity and satisfaction. Trust, says Stephen M.R. Covey, is the very basis of the new global economy, and he shows how trust—and the speed at which it is established with clients, employees and constituents—is the essential ingredient for any high–performance, successful organization.

For business leaders and public figures in any arena, The Speed of Trust offers an unprecedented and eminently practical look at exactly how trust functions in our every transaction and relationship—from the most personal to the broadest, most indirect interaction—and how to establish trust immediately so that you and your organization can forego the time–killing, bureaucratic check–and–balance processes so often deployed in lieu of actual trust.

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Good Information, Hard to Listen to

In light of the recent financial crisis and events that led or contributed to the current recession, the topic of this book is both timely and enduring. Covey describes trust as being based on character and competence, where character is required and competence is situational. He uses financial terms as a concrete way to convey the cost of low trust and the benefit of high trust, describing the former as a trust tax and the latter as a trust dividend. The quickest way to make a withdrawal, he insists, is to violate a behavior of character, and the quickest way to make a deposit is to demonstrate a behavior of competence. He goes on to detail seven low trust taxes (redundancy, bureaucracy, politics, disengagement, turnover, churn, and fraud) and seven high trust dividends (increased value, accelerated growth, enhanced motivation, improved collaboration, stronger partnering, better execution, and heightened loyalty).

Covey also outlines what he characterizes as five waves of trust: self-trust, relationship trust, organizational trust, market trust, and societal trust. For each of these waves, he applies the concept of the four cores (integrity, intention, capabilities, and results) and the thirteen behaviors of high-trust leaders (talk straight, demonstrate respect, create transparency, right wrongs, show loyalty, deliver results, get better, confront reality, clarify expectations, practice accountability, listen first, keep commitments, and extend trust). The book includes a multitude of practical applications and pushes the reader to reflect on his or her own behavior.

Despite the fact that I have recommended this book, I do so with some caveats. First, I listened to this book as an audio download and although I generally like it when an author reads the book, that was not the case for this one. Covey is a Harvard MBA, but I was astounded at the number of mispronunciations. His reading style has a hesitating tempo to it that comes across as patronizing, and his incessant family examples are over the top. He's a business man, not a family therapist, and as Tom Peters would say, he should stick to his knitting. Those examples got very tiresome. Still, there are nuggets in the book, so perhaps reading it rather than listening to it is the way to go.

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DO NOT BUY THIS BOOK!

I was looking for a a book that has to do with personal relationships an not with organizational trust! THIS IS A BETRAYAL. THE TITLE SAID BUILDING TRUST THEY SHOULD BE MORE SPECIFIC AN NOT MAKE PEOPLES WASTE TIME AN MONEY, SO IF IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR TRUST IN PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS DO NOT BUY THIS BOOOK!!
IM VERY DISSPOINTED

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Relevant, important, and good common sense

I stumbled across the book while looking for another Covey title. I've been a fan of the seven habits for years and when I saw this, but Stephen Covey's son, it almost shouted at me, "You've got to read this!" So I picked it up.

I started reading the book and read about half of it. But I rarely have time to sit down to soak in a good book so I decided to listen to the rest of it in my car and bought the audiobook instead to finish this off. Well, I didn't realize it until it arrived, this is VERY abridged. I'd say it has 1/8th of the content. I figured I wouldn't continue where I left off in the book since it is less than two hours long and just listen to the entire thing. So I thought it would be good to review this from the perspective of mentioning what you might be missing in this abridgment.

The short answer is, not much! In fact, I wonder if the book would have been more effective if it had come this short. Of course they wouldn't be able to charge the same price if they did, so I'm sure this is a profit issue, but the audiobook does hit ALL of the highlights. What you are really missing is that Covey will usually give several examples to illustrate his points in the book but in the audiobook he tends to give only one example and, in some cases, none. And I actually like it that way. While reading the book I thought to myself on occasion, "Okay, I get it. Next point, please," but I didn't find myself doing that with the audiobook. Like the trust issues he dealt with in the book during the Franklin/Covey merger... gone from the audiobook and good riddance. I thought that story would never end and I don't think it gave much added value to the book in the first place.

That being said, I would encourage you to listen to the book twice. He does cover some topics pretty quickly. For example, he gives 13 ways to build trust and I thought I got a lot out of it. But with the rapid-fire succession in which he shared it I don't think it quite sank in so I plan on giving this at least one more listen... maybe more. Reading the book once would have had it set in but I think a few listens are required to get the same effect... which is still faster than reading the book once.

As for the content, I based the five-star rating solely on that. If found it thought-provoking and very relevant to what I do, or what I should be doing. It gave me several ideas on how to build trust both at home and at the workplace. I've already followed some of its ideals and I've already noticed a difference. Trust can be earned and lost very quickly and I think Stephen does an excellent job of covering the topic throughout the audiobook.

This is a fantastic and relevant addition to the Covey collection and I don't hesitate at all on recommending this to anybody! Pick it up, give it a serious read, and you won't regret it either.

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The SPEED of Trust

The information is fair (at best). It retells you what intuition and experience told you long ago.

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Speed of Trust

A must read Top Down for anyone in a position of trust or with supervisory responsibilities over others within the organization!

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America’s most sought-after executive coach shows how to climb the last few rungs of the ladder

The corporate world is filled with executives, men and women who have worked hard for years to reach the upper levels of management. They’re intelligent, skilled, and even charismatic. But only a handful of them will ever reach the pinnacle -- and as executive coach Marshall Goldsmith shows in this book, subtle nuances make all the difference. These are small "transactional flaws" performed by one person against another (as simple as not saying thank you enough), which lead to negative perceptions that can hold any executive back. Using Goldsmith’s straightforward, jargonfree advice, it’s amazingly easy behavior to change.

Executives who hire Goldsmith for one-on-one coaching pay $250,000 for the privilege. With this book, his help is available for 1/10,000th of the price.

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MSEL (Masters in Executive Leadership" Program at USD - Loves this book

This was one of several books that was used in my Master's Program (MSEL - Master's in Executive Leadership) at USD. We were blessed to have Marshall come and speak to us for several hours and what he writes in this book is truly amazing. Usually you are able to take one or two things out of a Leadership book and apply it. We found ourselves in class applying everything in the book as well as what he spoke to us about. He provided real life use cases and believe me I applied several things on Monday morning and it made a difference. One key area of the book that you should look at is the section on "what's wrong with us". If you don't know what is broken or you aren't willing to accept there is something wrong how are you ever going to try and fix it. Remember if you are the coach you aren't changing someone. You are only providing them guidance and direction. Your asking the hard questions that they must answer. The person that is being coached is the only one who can make the change. You own your own destiny. Here are some of the transactional flaws that most leaders do and should work on correcting.

1.Winning too much: The need to win at all costs and in all situations - when it matters, when it doesn't, and when it's totally beside the point.
2.Adding too much value: The overwhelming desire to add our two cents to every discussion.
3.Passing judgment: The need to rate others and impose our standards on them.
4.Making destructive comments: The needless sarcasms and cutting remarks that we think make us sound sharp and witty.
5.Starting with "No," "But, "or "However": The overuse of these negative qualifiers which secretly say to everyone, "I'm right. You're wrong."
6.Telling the world how smart we are: The need to show people we're smarter than they think we are.
7.Speaking when angry: Using emotional volatility as a management tool.
8.Negativity or "Let me explain why that won't work": The need to share our negative thoughts even when we weren't asked.
9.Withholding information: The refusal to share information in order to maintain an advantage over the others.
10.Failing to give proper recognition: The inability to praise and reward.
11.Claiming credit that we don't deserve: The most annoying way to overestimate our contribution to any success.
12.Making excuses: The need to reposition our annoying behavior as a permanent fixture so people excuse us for it.
13.Clinging to the past: The need to deflect blame away from ourselves and onto events and people from our past; a subset of blaming everyone else.
14.Playing favorites: Failing to see that we are treating someone unfairly.
15.Refusing to express regret: The inability to take responsibility for our actions, admit we're wrong, or recognize how our actions affect others.
16.Not listening: The most passive-aggressive form of disrespect for colleagues.
17.Failing to express gratitude: The most basic form of bad manners.
18.Punishing the messenger: The misguided need to attack the innocent who are usually only trying to help us.
19.Passing the buck: The need to blame everyone but ourselves.
20.An excessive need to be "me": Exalting our faults as virtues simply because they're who we are.

If you have read this it is a MUST read. Marshall thank you again for your time on that Sunday and this wonderful read. This was one of the highlights of our class in Succession Planning & Talent Management.

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Great practical advice on understanding and changing perceptions

We all hope to be better. We all try to be better. Then why is it that others don't see what we are trying to do and the positive changes we are bringing about in ourselves? Marshall Goldsmith's book is a peak inside the difficulties of changing perceptions about one's self and engaging others in that change. It is an outstanding 'do it yourself' book for yourself. Many times we hear ourselves saying, "that is not what I meant" or "you have misunderstood me/my intentions". This book providers the reader with a simple method about how to sit down with those folks who have a say - directly or indirectly in your career - and create a forum for dialogue that ultimately leads to greater understanding between the parties. A must read for any manager or aspiring leader.





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Winning is Losing

I have found that "What Got You Here..." is an especially effective source of wisdom to be used by especially bright ,opinionated, tech savvy leaders who are used to having the "right" answers to technical problems. As an executive coach, many of the issues highlighted by Marshall Goldsmith's book, are especially useful in high tech industries where the "team" is absolutely essential for project success. The sections on "winning", "why that won't work" and "apologizing", speak volumes to the many high tech industries' leaders who have risen to the leadership positions on the basis of their excellence as an individual contributor. Being "right" was a plus as an individual, but can be a real killer as the driving force in a team leader. Marshall's insights have been helpful to leader's I have worked with, who have had difficulties in working within a team framework, a skill absolutely essential in today's high tech environments.

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Nothing new here

After reading a couple of books in this genre, it should be clear that many are saying very similar things in slightly different ways. Hey, who moved my cheese. Wait, wasn't that... I mean it was groundbreaking and I... These authors are getting rich because you keep paying them to say the same things. Think about it.

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This book is geared to help you become more successful leader

Dr. Goldsmith [...] is an amazing executive coach whose philosophy is being taught for the Master of Science in Executive Leadership (MSEL) degree program at University of San Diego. His book "What Got You Here Won't Get You There" is highly recommended. Buy it now and you will not regret it later! One commenter stated it was too late for him. I am here to tell you that the only time it is too late is when you are six feet under. You can teach an old dog new tricks. Watch his Google leadership video on YouTube and you will definitely feel connected to this authentic, genuine author whom I admire dearly [...]. His book will help you improve for any of the following 20 bad habits:
1. Winning too much
2. Adding too much value (adding your two cents to every discussion)
3. Passing judgment
4. Making destructive comments
5. Starting with "No," But," or "However"
6. Telling the world how smart we are
7. Speaking when angry
8. Negativity, or "Let me explain why that won't work"
9. Withholding information
10. Failing to give proper recognition
11. Claiming credit that we don't deserve
12. Making excuses
13. Clinging to the past
14. Playing favorites
15. Refusing to express regret
16. Not listening (I have learned new tips for this one)
17. Failing to express gratitude
18. Punishing the messenger
19. Passing the buck
20. An excessive need to be "me"

Sincere thanks Mr. Garry Ridge and Mrs. Patricia Thompson for highly recommending this book!


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